I'm crying.

I'm not crying because Zutara didn't happen. I'm not even crying because Kataang happened.

I'm crying because Kataang happened just because.

Aang showed more love, attention and affection for Appa than he did for Katara.

Since "the Fortuneteller" in Season 1 when Aang first discovers that he has a crush on Katara, what has Aang done for her? He returned her necklace to her. He invited her to dance with him. What else? Please, tell me, what else?

He forced himself onto her several times, never listening to her feelings.

He was mean to her, broke promises to her, and stopped apologizing to her. He put her in danger, threw fits that endangered her, and didn't say sorry.

Sokka made a sand sculpture of his love, Suki. Aang made a sand sculpture of his love, Appa.

For someone who supposedly loved a woman, Aang seldom ever thought of her, let alone took care of her, or showed any affection for her. He treated her as nothing more than another friend.

I'm crying. Aang didn't really love Katara!! If he did, he would've been tender with her like he was with Appa and Momo, like Sokka was with Suki. He would have considered her needs and wants. He would have looked out for her, tried to protect her and keep her safe. He would have listened to her when she was telling him something he didn't want to hear.

If Aang loved Katara, he would've done more than just treat her like the rest of the Gaang. He would have been getting her flowers, shared his culture with her by making her a little Air Nomad treat, asked her to share some of her culture with him, thanked her for doing all of the cooking for everyone, tried to make breakfast for everyone so she wouldn't have to, thanked her for always being so kind and caring, told her she was beautiful, said he was concerned for her father when he was taken captive, praised her in front of others, defended her when her good character was attacked, given her rides through the sky on his glider just so she could laugh and feel young again. He could have done any of those things and others in any and all of the episodes! He could have treated her as more than a friend!

In "The Southern Raiders," Aang could have expressed concern for Katara's safety and well being. He didn't have to condone her actions, but he could have threatened Zuko to watch over Katara, saying that if she comes back harmed in any way, that the Fire Prince would face the Avatar's Severe Displeasure. And when Katara did come back, he could have said, "are you all right? I'm so glad you're safe, I was worried about you." Instead, he lectures her, acting like he knows better than her because he couldn't stand the idea that the Love Of His Life was human enough to feel hatred.

In "The Ember Island Players," he could have expressed displeasure in the choice of actress for Katara. He could have said, "Hey! That woman's not pretty enough to be Katara! This show stinks," or something like that. He could have NOT forced that kiss on Katara. And even after he did, he could have approached her  later to say, "I'm so sorry. I shouldn't have done that. Please forgive me." Instead, he only pouts about the Actress-Aang and does nothing to try to make things right between himself and Katara.

In the first episode of the finale, did Aang so much as say "thank you," to Katara for getting him some watermelon juice? I don't remember. And it was OK that he made the sand sculpture of Appa, but was there a little figure of Katara riding on Appa's back?

Aang hasn't been treating Katara right. Why would she love him? Is she really that pathetic? Is she so insignificant, so small and insecure and shallow, that she would fall in love with an immature brat who cared more about his animals than he did for her, who neglected her and took her for granted? Is Katara really nothing more than a pawn in the "shipping war," a prize to be given at will to whomever the writers feel like? Is Katara -- the strong, passionate, caring, deep girl who had the maturity of a full-grown woman, who wouldn't stand for any sexist behavior from her brother or from her waterbending teacher -- really so pitiful? Of so little worth?

This is just too wrong. If Aang had done ANYTHING, ANYTHING recently to show Katara affection, attention ... anything to show her how much he valued her, how much he respected and treasured her ... I would have been okay with her falling in love with him. But this ... I can't support this. I can't let my little children watch this. I don't want my daughters or my sons to watch this and think that girls are just pawns, just little prizes to be given away to the hero just because he's the title character. I don't want my sons or daughters to think that if they obsess over someone else, that someone else is now a toy ogligated to give them what they want. There are enough real-life heartaches and broken families in the world as it is without letting my children watch such lies as entertainment.

I am not buying anything more Avatar related. I just won't.